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Cupid Fails Fourth Time

Married at sixteen and widowed at twenty-three, Sarah Ellen Hall lost her first husband, George W. Fenton, when he was accidentally shot by her elder brother.

Her second marriage, to John Hoffman, commenced three years later and lasted eighteen years before she filed for divorce, the proceedings of which cited her husband’s drunkenness and death threats towards her, as well as an alarming incident during which he pursued her with a butcher knife.

Her third marriage, to elderly widower and Civil War veteran Isaac Newton Holman, received much attention in the local newspapers which delighted in the story of the couple’s chance meeting at a land office. However, this marriage lasted only five years before Isaac filed for divorce, a contentious event that also made the news:

“[…] He owned property worth $25,000, and he asserts his wife has wasted $10,000 of that. Part of this went as costly presents to her children by a former marriage, while Mr. Holman’s children were denied even access to his home, it is alleged. […] About April, 1909, she began what appeared to be a systematic effort to drive her husband from home, he avers. She snatched the bedclothes from his couch at night, blew out the light when he wished to read, and invited him often to leave. She sought a lawyer on the subject of divorce, and was told she had no ground for action […]”

The Decatur Herald, Decatur, Nebraska, 28 August 1913

Sarah contested the divorce, but it was finalized nevertheless, and not quite four years later she embarked on her fourth and final attempt to secure a life partner. This marriage, to Swedish immigrant Nels Peter Eklof, lasted just two years. The Sioux City Journal reported:

CUPID FAILS FOURTH TIME.

Husband Tantalized Her When She Was Ill, Wife Says.

Her fourth attempt to obtain matrimonial bliss by the marriage route having proved unsuccessful, Sarah E. Eklof, 61 years old, yesterday was granted a divorce from N. P. Eklof in the district court and permitted to use her maiden name of Sarah E. Holman.

Mrs. Eklof charged her husband with cruel and inhuman treatment. She embarked on her fourth marriage with Mr. Eklof in March [May], 1917, but because of his treatment was compelled to leave him a year later, she asserted in her petition. Eklof is of Swedish descent and is 58 years old.

In addition to using harsh language toward her, Mrs. Eklof charged her husband with denying her the privilege of having a fire in the house and compelled her to use candles for light when the house was equipped with electric lights.

A deposition of testimony by Berletta Cunningham of Oregon [Ogden] City, Utah, was introduced in court. She testified that Mr. Eklof mimicked his wife’s coughing when she was ill and that he failed to provide medical attention for her.

The Sioux City Journal, Sioux City, Iowa, 01 June 1919

It is unknown how Sarah and Nels Peter Eklof would have crossed paths. Nels had spent many years farming with his wife and son in Idaho, and after the death of his wife in 1915, he relocated to Ogden, Utah. Newspaper clippings indicate that he spent the winter of 1916-1917 in Long Beach, California, and that in April 1917, he left Ogden by train bound for Lakeview, Oregon. Somehow, however, Nels found himself in Sioux City, Iowa, where, mere weeks later, on 26 May 1917, he married Sarah Ellen Hall.

Sarah was sixty and Nels fifty-six at the time of their marriage, and it does not seem outside the realm of possibility that, considering he had been recently widowed, Nels might have posted a personal advertisement seeking a wife to make a home with him in the west. Could Sarah have been a mail-order bride? Whatever the case, Sarah accompanied Nels to Utah, where in September of 1917 and March of 1918 they were engaged in real estate transactions in Ogden, but it seems it was not long before their relationship soured. By the time Sarah’s son registered for the draft in September of 1918, at which time he named his mother as his nearest relative and provided her home address, she had apparently returned to Sioux City.

Sarah Ellen (Hall) Fenton Hoffman Holman Eklof, ca. 1920; digital image 2014, privately held by Melanie Frick, 2022. Collection courtesy of David Adam.

Oddly enough, once her divorce to Nels Peter Elkof was finalized, Sarah reverted to the use of the surname Holman—that of her third husband, with whom she had been engaged in a contentious divorce only six years before! One would think she would have wanted no further association with Isaac Newton Holman, particularly when considering that the publicity their divorce received must have caused her great embarrassment. However, further research indicates that there may have been more behind the failure of that marriage than was initially reported in the newspapers.

Just a month after the first details of their divorce proceedings were printed, The Decatur Herald posted a notice that an adult son of Isaac Newton Holman sought to obtain guardianship: “The son alleges that the old man is incompetent by reason of his advanced age to attend to his business affairs and that he is squandering his fortune.” Probate case files provide more detail, again from the perspective of Holman’s son, who stated “[…] that the said Isaac N. Holman has been a user of intoxicating liquors to excess for a number of years during his lifetime; that his home life during later years has been unhappy; that the amount of money demanded from him by his present wife annoyed him considerable.” It was added that “said Isaac N. Holman has become changeable, forgetful and stubborn,” and that he was “easily influenced and brought into expensive litigation.”

This, of course, raises questions: Did this son have valid concerns that his father might reconcile with Sarah, allowing her further financial influence, or was his father actually senile, and, perhaps, an alcoholic as well—and might his mental state and habits have contributed to the downfall of his marriage? The court ruled in the favor of Holman’s son, granting him guardianship, and it is unknown is whether Sarah and her ex-husband ever had any further contact with one another.

In the years to come, Sarah would continue to present herself as the wife or widow of Isaac Newton Holman, who died in 1922, and “Sarah E. Holman” was the name inscribed on her gravestone upon her death in 1930. Perhaps her desire to hold on to the Holman surname was her attempt at erasing what she may have considered to be a mistake—her final brief, unhappy marriage in Utah—when it was simpler to present herself as the widow of a man who had some local prominence as a well-to-do landowner. The five years during which she was married to Isaac Newton Holman may well have been the only period of time during which she had enjoyed a higher social status and relative affluence in a life otherwise riddled with hardship.

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A Goodly Bit of Romance

The newspaper headline must have brought a few chuckles: “OLD FOLKS HAVE ROMANCE.” The story continued, “Romance is not all reserved for young people, as the marriage of Isaac N. Holman, aged 70, of Decatur, Neb., to Mrs. Sarah E. Fenton, aged 51, of Springdale, in Sioux City, will testify. […] This is the third marriage for each of the contracting parties. Both are well along the avenue of life and to them the marriage represents good judgment as well as a goodly bit of romance. They have known each other a long time and the mutual admiration they have entertained has grown gradually until the marriage yesterday placed its happy seal upon their growing affection.” Following their marriage on 24 August 1908 at the home of the Reverend W. H. Montgomery of the Haddock Methodist Episcopal Church in Sioux City, Woodbury County, Iowa, the couple was to visit Omaha. They would settle in Decatur, Burt County, Nebraska, where Holman, “said to be quite well to do,” made his home.1

That evening, their story appeared in another Sioux City newspaper: “LOOKING FOR LAND HE FINDS HELPMATE.” This version of the story was written with a level of flowery detail that, while entertaining, I don’t quite trust:

“I.N. Holman, a wealthy retired farmer of Decatur, Neb., came to Sioux City several months ago on a land deal. At the office of a real estate dealer he met a charming black-eyed widow, Mrs. Sarah E. Fenton, who had chanced in there on business. When they were introduced, he immediately lost all interest in Sioux City property or any property for that matter, and devoted all his time to the widow. Holman is 70 years old, and he pressed his suit with such ardor that before he returned to Decatur he had made a contract for something which he wouldn’t trade for all the farms in Iowa, namely the attractive widow. Today he returned to close the deal, which he says is the best he ever made. A license was issued this afternoon, the bride giving her age as 51. They will be married this evening and after a two weeks’ wedding trip will make their home at Decatur. “Maybe people think we’re foolish,” said the bride, blushing like a school girl, “but we don’t, we’re too happy.”2

This is far from the whole story. First, there are, in fact, two stories presented by these competing news articles. Did the couple meet at the land office, or had they been acquainted for years? This we may never know for sure; it seems unlikely, but not impossible, that the couple had crossed paths before meeting in Sioux City. Second, the “attractive widow” most likely did not have the black eyes of Bess the landlord’s daughter, charming as the description may be.3 And was she even a widow? Well, yes and no. Her first husband, George W. Fenton, died tragically in 1880 when accidentally shot by her brother-in-law.4 Her second husband, however, was still alive and well at the time of her third marriage; Sarah had divorced John Hoffman in 1902 citing his drunkenness and death threats.5 However, it would have been far from unusual for a woman to claim widowhood over divorce.

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Sarah Ellen (Hall) Fenton Hoffman Holman Eklof, Iowa or Nebraska, ca. 1908; digital image 2001, privately held by Melanie Frick, 2015.

Finally, would Isaac and Sarah live happily ever after? Unfortunately not. Isaac was granted a divorce from Sarah in 1914;6 a probate petition filed by his son the previous year, while suggesting that Isaac “indulged in intoxicating liquors to excess” and was “changeable, forgetful, and stubborn,” also stated that “the amount of money demanded from him by his current wife annoyed him considerable.”7 Oh dear. Isaac did not remarry before his death in 1922,8 but Sarah would marry – and divorce – once more.9 She resumed the use of the Holman name and at the time of her death in 1930, she was referenced as the widow of Isaac Newton Holman. Her short-lived marriage to this “wealthy landowner” was, perhaps, her one claim to local fame and financial stability.10

Lesson learned? Never assume. I had assumed that because this was the couple’s third marriage, and because they married in a community with a population greater than thirty thousand, that no mention would be made of their marriage in the local newspaper. In fact, I didn’t bother to check until their names turned up in the Findmypast database featuring a newspaper from across the state, and then learned that more than one version of the story existed. As it turns out, you never know what details of your ancestor’s experience might have made a compelling story deemed worthy of reprint!

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Tombstone Tuesday: Nancy Stilley

Nancy Stilley was raised on the Illinois frontier, and died a pioneer in Kansas. From what little I know about her life, she’s a perfect example of a “Fearless Female” whose story should be shared in honor of National Women’s History Month.

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Grave of Nancy (Stilley) Holman Edwards Hall (1819-1898), Gypsum Cemetery, Gypsum, Saline County, Kansas, image date unknown, privately held by V.S.H. [personal information withheld], 2014.

According to her obituary, Nancy Stilley was born 19 June 1819 in Franklin County, Illinois.1 It’s likely that she never attended school,2 although she was said to have joined the Baptist church at the age of thirteen.3 Records suggest that she may have married as many as three times. Her first marriage took place in 1836; she married Thomas Holman of Hamilton County, Illinois.4 Her second marriage took place in 1843; she married Joseph Edwards of Washington County, Illinois.5 Her third and final marriage took place in 1847; she married Elithan Hall of Washington County, Illinois.6 This marriage, too, was short-lived. After her husband’s death in May of 1860,7 Nancy, still just forty years old, was left a widow with nine children at home.8 This time, she did not remarry.

Although it must have been difficult, Nancy seems to have managed her household and farm through the tumultuous years of the Civil War. Following the settlement of her husband’s estate in 1868,9 she relocated to Kansas with her children, including those who now had families of their own.10

By 1870, Nancy had settled in Solomon, Saline County, Kansas, where she held a respectable amount of real estate worth $1100 and personal property worth $600.11 Four children, between the ages of twelve and sixteen, were at home.12 Nancy was to remain in Kansas for the remainder of her life, eventually joining the household of her eldest son.13 She lived to the age of seventy-nine, her death the result of an unfortunate accident during what was likely a routine visit to her children and grandchildren:

“Last Friday morning, October 21, 1898, Mrs. T. G. McCance hitched a team to a buggy for the purpose of driving her mother, Mrs. Nancy Hall, to the residence of her son, E. L. McCance. Just as the ladies started the team suddenly turned the vehicle enough to throw the occupants to the ground. Mrs. Hall struck the ground with sufficient force to tear the flesh from one side of the face, break the cheek bone and inflict internal injuries, from which she died in a few hours.”14

Nancy was buried two days later, her burial attended “by a large number of friends and relatives,” in the Gypsum Cemetery in Gypsum, Saline County, Kansas.15

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